MomSlay Days vs. Survival Days

Here’s the thing I’ve learned after 44 years, four kids, and an autoimmune disease that keeps me guessing: both days matter. And both are okay.

So how do we ride the ups and downs without drowning in guilt, comparison, or stressing out and losing almost 20 pounds (yeah so that really did happen)? Let’s chat.

☀️ MomSlay Days:

These are those unicorn moments when:

• Your lashes are on point.
• The kids aren’t completely wild.
• You squeeze in Pilates and maybe a matcha.
• You packed lunch and didn’t eat it for breakfast.
• You feel like your Instagram self.

On MomSlay Days, we run the world. We text inspirational quotes to our friends, we prep dinner and end the day with a glass of wine because today was a WIN! Then we have survival days: 

💤 Survival Days:

These are when:

• The the kids are constantly fighting.
• Someone tries you and you fall for their trap.
• You miss an awards dayat school.
• You swap Pilates for crying/Netflix.

Guess what? Those days count too. Surviving is succeeding. No need to justify your rest or tiredness. Making it through without screaming is a win.

⚖️ Navigating the Swing—Without Guilt:

1. Check Expectations: Don’t force a MomSlay Day vibe on a Survival Day. Pivot as needed. Not everything’s urgent.
2. Micro-Rituals: Even on low days, I must :
   • Take a hot shower with amazing body wash and scrubs.
   • Move for 10 mins.
   • Say something kind to myself.
3. Protect Slay Energy: On high-energy days, don’t overbook. Let your wins breathe. Rest is strategy, not reward.
4. Own the Contrast: Both sides of you are real and worthy. MomSlay Days showcase your power; Survival Days show your resilience.

🩷 Real Talk:

I’ve done a skincare routine while yelling “Get your shoes!” and completed Pilates training after crying my eyes out in the car. Life’s in the in-between. You’re amazing, whether you’re slaying or just surviving.

💬 Let’s Connect:

Comment below: Are you in a MomSlay era, a Survival season, or somewhere in between? I’d love to hear how you manage your energy and sanity.

Remember: Showing up, however you can, is enough.